New Year, New You: Mind – Loving Yourself by Dr. Helen Fisher January 9, 2013

“New Year, New You” is an ongoing blog series focused on on getting your mind, body and spirit ready for dating in 2013. The series will feature posts by Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and scientific advisor for, Bela Gandhi, Dating Coach and President of Smart Dating Academy, and Amanda Ebner, M.A.; M.Ed.; and personal trainer for, an online personal training resource.

By Dr. Helen Fisher

People are drawn to confident, happy, energetic people—probably because when we are near a self-assured, optimistic individual, we naturally mimic their body postures and facial expressions, triggering brain systems that make us feel happy and self-confident as well. Self assured, joyous, cheerful people make us feel good about ourselves.  Moreover, self-confident people are generally also more friendly, open and flirtatious—all “people-catching” traits. So if you want to be loved, you might start at home: loving yourself. To potential mates, self-confidence is gold. | more…

Single Parents: No Time For Love? December 19, 2012

By Debra Kent 

Today was my lucky day: I met Eric in line at the DMV. Funny, smart, with a sexy smile, great hands. Both of us loved camping, hated hot weather and had always wanted to try country line-dancing. Yes, we were definitely into each other. Only one problem: The absolute soonest I could schedule him in for an intimate, candle-lit, who-knows-where-this-will-lead date was, well, three weeks from now. At 8:15 a.m. And that was assuming my 13-year-old daughter wouldn’t have a homework crisis or catch the flu.

Sound frustrating? Welcome to the dating life of a single parent—a scheduling nightmare that could make even the most optimistic person wonder there’s really time for romance when you’re raising kids on your own. But according to some dating pros and savvy single parents I talked to, there are ways to have a vibrant love life without compromising family time. So dig that date-night outfit out of the back of your closet and read on.  | more…

Dating At 20, 30, 40, 50 and 60 December 18, 2012


by Julie Taylor

There are certain things about dating that, no matter your age, remain the same, from the butterflies you feel when you meet someone cute to that painfully sweet moment when you exchange your first I love you’s. And yet let’s be honest: Thereare also major differences between hooking up fresh out of college, looking for a mate during mid-life, or finding a companion when you’re 60-something. Goals shift. Priorities change. To help you navigate each decade, we consulted leading dating and relationship experts to pinpoint the common desires and pitfalls of each age group—and got their advice on how you can maximize your dating experience along the way.

Your 20s 
The post-college dating scene can often seem deceptively easy: After all, singles are rarely looking for a long-term commitment, as Katie, 25, from Oklahoma City can attest. “I’m not sure what I want out of life or a relationship,” she says. “When I date someone new, I’m not thinking about whether or not he’d be good husband material—I just wonder if he’d be fun to hang out with!” Even so, there’s a lot this age group can do now to make the most of their freewheeling days and pave the way for regret-free romance later in life. Such as… | more…

The Art of Date Night Conversation December 4, 2012

By Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro

When it comes to wooing someone, intimate cafés, jazz clubs, ballgames and park promenades are main ingredients. Conversation, however, is the spice that determines if you’re a bland dish of blah or a colorful plate of wonder. Everyone has their own brand of charm, but without some conversational panache, a first date feels pretty much like a corporate Q&A — a dry exchange of biographical info. To generate cool chat, we’ve outlined simple tips to keep talk flowing:  | more…

5 Ways to Create Chemistry with Conversation November 27, 2012

By Amy Keyishian

So you know what your date does for a living, where he or she grew up, and even exchanged some lively dialogue about a recent bestseller you both read. And yet, so far your conversation contains not even an iota of a spark. Does this mean you should write this one off? Not necessarily. First-date and early relationship-stage conversations can often feel like a dry exchange of information, but the good news is there are plenty of ways to get beyond that. Here’s how to talk to your date so you’ll truly connect.  | more…